Have you ever searched for an ex from your younger years?
Have you ever searched for that ex thinking that things could be like they once were?
Have you ever searched for the main reason of just knowing how that person is?
Regardless for your search motives, do you feel that this is unhealthy behavior?
Do you feel that leaving things as they were, is the best thing you could possibly do for your sanity?
Should this apply to every ex? I mean some breakups were breakups and some were brawls...
Honestly I felt this way at one point as far as searching for the past. But once I made peace with the past. Once I had come to terms with whatever hurt that I had instilled or whatever hurt had been instilled onto me it made it much easier for me to either
1.) search for the past, or 2.) allow the past to re-enter my life.
Although I may allow the past to re-enter my life, it was only on my terms. It was only on the surface. There was no way that I could allow myself to be used for people's agenda any further.
Call it being hard, or you can call it that I am portraying the elements of a puta, either way I PROTECT MYSELF AND MY HEART at all times from the past.
The past is just that, the past but what I do know is that I won't allow the past to cloud my judgement regardless of how good it may or may not have been...
Living in the past blocks you from living in your future! ~KLJ~
Recently I had the pleasure of dealing with a family member dealing with obstacles. This family member does not want to come to the realization that they can't go around blaming everyone for things that have occurred in their life. They also don't realize that forgiveness is key to moving on and holding onto and harboring all this hate, hurt, and pain will do nothing for their situation.
The only way we can deal with all the curve balls, all the speed bumps, all of the things that affect our emotions, life, and our state of mind effectively is to be able to take responsibility for our choices that we make/or don't make in our lives.
I'm not perfect, I've made many mistakes over the years. I have also come to the realization that the things that affect my sanity can also cripple my existence if I allow those things to take control of me.
When and only when (or if) they decide to finally own up to their own shortcomings; their own doing in the way things have turned out for them is the only time that they will be able to stand back and take a look to move forward effectively.
I also felt personally responsible for this last attempt to make things work only to realize that once again you can only lead a horse to drink, but gosh darnit you cannot make him drink.
Being stubborn and so filled with pride that we can't see past our issues does nothing to help our current situation.
When we learn to take responsibility. When we learn to accept our mistakes. When we learn to offer up forgiveness to all that we FELT may have hurt us. When we learn to forgive ourselves for the part we played in our own downfall.... Only then can we learn to move on. Learn to live again. Learn to realize that if someone offers you a hand of hope, we need to take it and accept if for what it is. Even if that hand of hope does not last as long as we want it to, take it as it is.
Learn to get over it. Learn to let go of the drama.
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