Let's talk about abstinence.
What does it really mean to abstain from anything?
I googled the word and this was the definition that I got in my search...
(Abstinence~the fact or practice of restraining oneself from indulging in something, typically alcohol.) I wonder why it only states typically alcohol...
How long does it take to actually count for abstaining to "register?"
When I think about abstinence from SEX, I think IMO for it to actually count for something it has to be anywhere from 6 months and upwards. (Again, this is my opinion and everyone is subject to their own definition of how long it takes for them to actually count for something.)
I've heard people say that they couldn't go that "long" without sex, however I think it gets easier the more you practice to keep your legs closed. I have been abstaining now for over 2 years. I decided that it's not that serious just to get off if I'm not really truly enjoying myself.
What is it to have your hopes up about doing the act only to be disappointed by thinking this person could either:
a). actually be the one, or
b). thinking they are worth slipping off the wagon and onto the shaft only to be disappointed because (you're really not that into it anyway.)
Most times neither of those things are true because you are always disappointed on both fronts. Because they are most likely not the one and just filling a void. And they are surely not getting you in your full glory...
I choose to be celibate or rather to abstain because I was getting tired of wasting my time, my energy, and myself with the wrong ones. The right one in the moment somehow turns out to be the wrong one you should have never given the time of day.
What do you find is the hardest part of abstaining?
Do you think you could make the pledge and follow through with it?
Is there anything that gets you in the mood to slip off the wagon?
In this day and age there are many reasons that may have us make the decision to wait until we have found the one that makes our toes curl, our hair stand on edge, and keeps us cumming again and again.
If you want to do it, just make up your mind and you can get to that goal that you have set for yourself. It's doable! You just have to want to NOT do IT! Just try it and before you know it you will be 2 years, 3 years, 5 years in....
Inspire. Motivate. Enrich. Bless. Cherish. Love.