We tend to make promises to each other with promise rings; with wedding vows (until death do us part); with words of reassurance… We tell each other we’ll call, or we’ll write, or we’ll be a better friend. But what do we really mean when we make those promises?
Do we make these promises just to appease the other person?
Do we say it just to string people along?
Do we say it just because it feels good to have words come out of our mouths?
There are many marriages that are running amuck because people DO NOT take these things to heart. I don’t know what the reasoning behind it is, but I do feel that if you are going to take that step that you should be ready to take that step wholeheartedly.
I take relationships/friendships (both are the same in its own context) very seriously. Over the years I must admit that I have gotten lax to a certain degree, but I am trying to be a better friend to the people that show me that they are willing to do the same for me. If you are willing to reach out and be there for me, then I will in turn do the same for you. I am that kind of friend that you can call at any time and I will give you a pep talk, a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to talk off. I can also say that I am not the kind of friend that will listen to the same woe is me story for the 20th time because you will continue to do the same thing and wonder why me…
I no longer continue to force my friendship on anyone. I can’t be the only one driving the relationship. If people want to make an effort they do, if they don’t… they ultimately don’t ~ It’s just the way it is!
If you have made the promise to be that friend; that lover; that husband/wife; that ride or die, then take that promise to that commitment wholeheartedly and give it your all. If you don’t have any intentions of doing this then don’t waste people’s time. Time is too precious! Time can never be replaced! Time is too short on this planet we call Earth and we need to do better with our relationships.
I will start with me! Can you make the commitment? I ask my family members to take that challenge and do the damn thing! I ask my friends to take the challenge and do the damn thing. Life is TOO SHORT to screw it away with coulda; shoulda; woulda!
KLJ ~ Smooches & Love like there is no tomorrow!
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