Seems like depression is on the rise.
Seems like we internalize more than we should and therefore we carry the heaviest weight around.
We don't want to ask for help.
We don't want to talk to people to figure things out.
We turn to things that are unhealthy for us to cope.
Why is it though that depression seems so rampant in these times.
Yes, it could be a sign of the times (I've been hearing that for umpteen years).
But how is it so prevalent that it's taking over many of generations.
Have I ever been depressed?
Yes, I have…
But one day I no longer wanted that feeling weighing me down any longer.
So I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself. To stop shopping when I felt depressed…
Because ultimately that caused more depression.
Not being able to pay your bills will do that to you.
It's got to be something in the water.
It's got to be something in the food that we eat.
It's got to be the way of the world that we live in now.
Depression is out there and it's spreading like wildfire.
How can we get this under control?
I've been slacking a lot on my blog. I was supposed to post when I got my vision board completed and I've finally managed to glue on the last pieces of motivation on the board. It's visual appeal is enough to make me visit the board if only once a week. My visions on my board is to keep me focused... With the help of my calendar and the board I believe that I can get things accomplished.
Get your magazines, get your glue, get your scissors and whatever items from your fave craft store to get you going! Commit to it and get it done. My next vision right now is to get my girls to get theirs done. Believe it or not, writing things down, seeing things in front of you, having that visual aid helps!
When will you get yours done?
I'm almost ready to start my vision board. I've cut pictures out of magazines. I've acquired a couple of quotes that are inspiring to me. I've also bought the poster board. Got some Elmer's glue and a glue stick...
I think this weekend I can start cutting, clipping, and sticking.
I'm so excited to get this completed especially since school starts soon and it will keep me busy for a couple more years.
What's your vision? Do share :-)
KLJ~ Live! Love! Laugh!
I recently finished reading a book that took longer than it should have taken me to complete. But now that I have finally completed that book I feel the need to get things done while it's fresh in my mind. I'll let you know the name of the book at the end of my post. With that said I went to Tuesday Morning today with one goal in mind. That goal was for me to purchase items for filing papers for my business and to get my paperwork organized, filed away with easier access than what I now have. With that goal in mind I surely lucked out with some pretty manila folders that are decorative and makes me more willing to put things away neatly. Anywho with that said and back to the book I just got done reading I had a plan to get items for the Vision Board too.
I saw that there were many items I could use to get my Vision Board going. Nice little stickers, sticky notes, and even mini place mats that would surely lend to make a decorative and appealing board to keep my attention. Since I'm easily bored and distracted I have to do things that keeps my mind actively working. Visual aids will definitely draw my attention to continue to look after the initial phase of completion has worn off. I also printed out a few quotes that would give me much needed motivation and started with jotting down things that I wanted to focus on.
I have completed my basic outline of what I will be aiming to get placed on my Vision Board. Now I have my stacks of magazines and will start cutting away. Keep in mind that you may cut out lots of information but you may not use all of those things. So go crazy with your cutting like I'm about to do. Make it as girly, cute, or eccentric as you would like but stay FOCUSED on the goal at hand. I am going to get cutting and will post a picture of my final board once I have it completed. I've only been saying for years that I have to make a Vision Board... and it's time to make it do what it do!
Make it fun, make it a party, or just make it! Let me know how yours came out!
Here are your top items (I've expanded on my topics here) to hit you can always add or remove things as you see fit, after all this is your Vision...
Finances= where you want to be/how to get there/how to grow there/be innovative/be DEBT FREE
Health= weight goal, exercise plan, food plan
Weight= weight goal, exercise plan
Job= grow business/more money/be adventurous
Education= further education/college/bachelors
Relationships= put myself out there/meet new people/let go of my roadblocks
Adventures= travel abroad/travel local/do more
Personal accomplishment=weight loss/healthier body and mind and spirit
Social living= be more sociable/be more innovative
Spiritual and Mental health= work on SELF
Before I forget the name of the book I just got done reading is... Jen Sincero: You Are A BadAss
As the new year approaches I hear and see a lot in regards to making "resolutions" for the new year. Every year around this time, it tends to be a subject matter that people will debate, ponder, and try to deliver on. Making a resolution is very easy, but keeping these resolutions are much harder to keep than we can imagine.
In the past I must admit I was on the resolution band wagon and made an oath to the resolution gods that I would put all these things in place. All of these things that I knew damn well would not get past the month of February... I would join a gym, I would lose weight, I would eat healthier (I do for the most part anyway), and blaseh blaseh. And then one year I had an epiphany, I would make time to make my "resolutions" throughout the year. I would make myself a better person daily. I would do what I could do regularly to get the weight off, to start making more time for me, to start going out more, to start exploring the world we live in just a little bit more. I would try loving more, loving me more, loving my kids more...
Although I know that we have experienced a lot of grief and loss in the year 2016, we still have to embrace what is to come in the year of 2017. We are still here until we are no longer here.
We are the products of our environment, we are therefore the products of our thoughts, and definitely of our actions. Let's take this time to wish each other well and continue to build on ourselves!
The only way to get through it is to go through it! Happy New Year!!!!
Katy L. Joseph~ Author
I lost my mother early 2015 and try as I might I can't seem to get her taking her last breath out of my head. I can replay that scene in my head over and over again but I can't seem to remember where I put something the day before. I lose things and I forget things on a daily... but this moment will not leave my memory.
Remembering her taking her last breath is not exactly the way that I want to remember her. I want to remember her being the silly woman that she would sometimes take the time out to be. Laughing or being silly dancing like she did. For someone who was very strict she did take the time to be silly every once in a while. We've shared some good times and we've shared some bad times. Times are all that we have to cherish with our loved ones and as such we should treasure our times together. Take the time to love each other and respect each other. Take the time to make memories because once the time is gone there is no turning back.
Each day we have to remember who we have before they take their last breaths. Don't forget to love like it's your last day, because it could just be your last day after all!!!!
Do you take to the love of food?
Do you insist on keeping things that you no longer have use for?
Do you lash out at your loved ones?
Do you take things to an extreme level?
However, you deal with tragedies know that sometimes we do things to soothe us for the time that we may be going through trials and tribulations, but know that we also need to keep a handle on things so that they don’t get out of control. We don’t want to end up with a weight problem that we don’t know how to deal with. Take the time to incorporate things slowly into your diet that will enable you to get back to healthier eating and a healthier body. Take to the streets… Walking for 30 minutes a day at least 3-5 times a week getting your heartrate up will surely help to shed those pounds.
Keeping things of sentimental value helps us to deal with our losses in life, but keeping every. Single. Thing… only leads to over excessively hoarding items that will result in a bad habit gone awry. Purging is a good thing, try to get rid of items that you have no need for or that you haven’t utilized in several years. If you aren’t using it someone else can take great pleasure of gaining use from that thing. It’s a good thing to clear up that clutter.
There was a time when I was under extreme stress and I would come home from work and take out all my frustrations on my kids. I would reach home and I would just expel my vicious bile all over my two daughters and I would feel like crap, but I would go back to work and come home with all that negative energy and expel it on them repeatedly. That time in my life was dark and that led to me getting professional help. I was close to a nervous breakdown but I sought help and I could slowly regain my sanity! If there are things going on in your life if you don’t have someone you trust that you can speak to or you think it’s passed that point seek professional help and get yourself better. Stress kills!
Try not to overact at the little things in life. Try not to let the bad things that happen in your life take control of you. Bad things happen to good people unfortunately, we lose loved ones; we may get a diagnosis that we don't think we can handle; we have to learn how to cope without self-sabotaging our lives any futher. I know it’s easier said than done, however if we don’t monitor our reactions to everything we experience it turns into that negative energy that we don’t want living in our bodies. Since I’ve been wondering if I may have a cancerous lump in my body I did some research into cancer. Since I’ve been trying to find out what’s wrong with a family member I’ve instructed them to get tested for cancer in her body. Cancer is a bad disease and has taken from a lot of people and sometimes all the negative energy that we feed into our bodies can turn into a disease. We must do better to take care of ourselves to live healthier lives.
I will try my best to do better… I hope you can pledge to do the same! Live, Laugh, Love KLJ
I've noticed that there has been a change in me lately. It's not been a sudden change, but it's been increasingly evident that I am evolving.
I must say that I'm loving this change in me, because with that change I can say that I'm much stronger and wiser than I used to be.
I don't partake in frivolous behavior unless I'm out to just let it all hang.
I don't entertain things which aren't meant to strengthen me in some way.
I've been able to grow to become a better friend, a better mother, and a better me all around.
With age you must strive to leave the things behind that don't seem to grow you in some kind of way. If it does not enrich or edify you then it's time to leave it in the past.
Grow so that you can become a better you!
Remember that life is too short to sweat the small stuff.
Love longer, laugh harder, live with a passion reignited in you!!!
For years I have been contemplating going off on my own, leaving the corporate world. For years I have allowed FEAR to hold me captive. FEAR of not being able to pay my bills.
FEAR of not being able to be successful.
FEAR of the unknown.
The more you continue you to let FEAR hold you captive, the more you will continue to not be able to move forward and take chances.
The more you will lose faith in yourself, because you are stuck on the "what ifs" of it all.
For once in my life (well not really) but for something this major.... I have taken that leap of faith. I am making sure that the bar that I set is a bar that I can continue to meet, exceed, and surpass with my skills.
With that said, don't continue to let FEAR rule your life. I know it's easier said than done, but at some time we have to regain control of ourselves.
You never know the time the place or the moment…
I think all the time now of how I will miss you so if you were to leave me. It plagues my mind now more than ever before since losing mommy. I asked myself years ago what I would miss most about you and I know what that is now. Whenever I would call you trying to trick you and using my disguised (not so disguised) voice you would always play along and chuckle like it’s no tomorrow. When I have had enough of my tom foolery and trying to trick you (which I have lost my touch in doing) I myself start to chuckle. I hear your laughter; it always starts of really slow and low, and then it continues to grow and goes into full grown deep laughter from your soul. Then at this point we are both on the phone laughing like two idiots. And I always say how did you know it was me? How could you tell? What gave me away? You always respond that you know it’s me. You always know it’s me. And we just laugh together. A laughter that fills us both. It makes me so happy to hear that laughter of yours. It fills my soul!
When you leave this earth, when you leave me I will miss most of all your laughter from your soul. Your laughter that makes me feel good to hear. To me that means that we shared a moment of happiness together. It makes me feel good to know that you are feeling comfortable enough with me to show me that part of you. I love you Papi! I tell you every time we speak. As mom always said give me my flowers when I’m alive, I’m trying to enjoy my flowers more whilst I’m still here on this earth.
Inspire. Motivate. Enrich. Bless. Cherish. Love.